Age: 49 ( I will be 50 in Feb)
State of residence: Arizona
Child’s name and age: Nathanael Smart, 4 years old,
Current or former profession(s): Actress/Model and Real Estate Agent
How long were you trying to get pregnant?
Two years – I had lost a baby at 42 and had him at 45.
What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
Having a very shaman/spiritual life I was doing sweats and eating very clean and having regular balancing treatments. I don’t eat a lot of processed foods. I walked, meditated and stayed very positive in my belief that I could manifest another baby. Once I released the fear, I was able to receive the gift of pregnancy.
How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?
Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?
If I had had doctors that didn’t support me or believe in the idea of having a baby after 40, yes I would have. I felt very blessed because I had great doctors and nurses.
Family and friends
What was the reaction of friends and family when you told me about your pregnancy?
They were all very excited for me.
LABOR AND DELIVERY
Did you take any childbirth classes? Why or why not?
Yes, we went to a birthing class once.
What do you remember most about the birth experience?
For me it was awesome! I was in a car accident when I was 6 months pregnant. I was extremely worried because at age 42 I lost a little girl. I was 18 or so weeks into the pregnancy. I started to have some contractions from the car accident. I began going to an acupuncturist, massage/cranial sacral person and a chiropractor which helped greatly! I could tell that he (Nathanael) wanted to come early. So I kept telling him that was fine, and that he could only enter this world if he was able to come home with me from the hospital. I had dropped my husband off and went to an acupuncture appointment and then to the hospital for a routine check-up to see how Nathanael was doing.
I went into the bathroom as I always did but didn’t seem to stop peeing. I came out and told the nurses this and it all started—34-35 weeks into the pregnancy! I was only in labor for 8 hours and opted not to have any drugs. Around 8-9 cementers, I decided that may not have been the best choice, but by that point it was too late (lol)! He came out and all was good EXCEPT that no one had prepared me for having to deliver the placenta. I was a bit overwhelmed at that idea(lol)
I AM MOM
What concerns you most about being a mom over 35 and how do you address these concerns?
Not being here for him when he is older and not have family to connect with. I enjoy every moment and trust.
What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?
I enjoy being in a better place with myself which allows me to have more patience and understanding toward Nathanael.
How has becoming a mom changed you?
In every way! For me there has been no greater honor than becoming a mom! We have the chance to help shape our world by raising amazing/loving creative little souls.
What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?
Take care of yourself and never stop believing and trusting. Eat healthy foods. I am of a mindset that in many regards, we have been brainwashed as women to believe certain things. There is so much fear out there. We create fear in our lives by hearing and believing it.
I am not saying to wait if you don’t have too (become a mother) but if you have to, work towards trusting and believing. Take care of you; anything is possible. Don’t allow others to create the fear that they know better; better than something higher and more profound at work in this process. I was blessed because all my doctors gave the power to God/Higher power not to the medical world and statistics.
InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thank Michelle for sharing her story and for being an inspiration to all of us!