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MEET LIZZIE LAU

By June 25, 2014 Blog, Featured Moms
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Lizzie with baby-1This mom is an ex-skydiver and motocross racer who is now a work-at- home mom to a delightful, sparky toddler.

Name: Lizzie Lau

Age: 44

State of residence: California

Daughter’s name and age: Ebi 4

Current profession: Virtual Assistant

PREGNANCY

How long were you trying to get pregnant?

Two years, I didn’t want kids at all until I was 37 and it hit me hard. I left my husband of 11 years because he was much older and didn’t want kids.

What did you do or not do to increase your chances of getting pregnant after 40?
I was using an ovulation detector, but gave up after I miscarried. The second pregnancy happened when we weren’t thinking about the baby project.

MEDICAL COMMUNITY

How supportive were your doctors during your pregnancy?

I didn’t really rely on a doctor as much as I relied on my intuition, and my doula who happened to be my sister. The doctor in Indio was kind and funny but he didn’t play much of a role in the pregnancy.

Did you change doctors or would like to have changed doctors? Why or why not?

I was living in Guatemala City and I wasn’t happy with my doctors. I tried 3 doctors there and liked the third one until he told me that I should plan on having a c-section because at my age I probably couldn’t deliver naturally. I called my parents that day and asked them to find me a doctor in California. I spoke to a midwife in Indio and she recommended a doctor who had been trained by midwives and had a quiet, gentle approach to birth. My sister and I interviewed him and we both liked him.

FAMILY AND FRIENDS

What was the reaction of friends and family when you told them about your pregnancy?

They were delighted. They knew how much it meant to me.

LABOR AND DELIVERY

Did you take any childbirth classes? Why or why not?

I didn’t. I watched some videos including “The Business of Being Born” but one that stood out was an amazing video of a French woman giving birth at home with a midwife. She chanted and kind of sang and swayed through a long labor, and the birth was so peaceful and beautiful. I watched it several times and decided that I wanted my birth experience to be that simple. My mom and my sister both gave birth naturally and it didn’t occur to me to do it any other way.

Where did you give birth?

At JFK Memorial in Indio, California.

What do you remember most about the birth experience?

I remember being surprised at how easy it was. I labored at home for 36 hours, dancing and chanting. When the contractions were finally 5 minutes apart, My mom drove me and my sister to the hospital. I had a contraction while I was checking in, and I don’t think the nurses were taking me seriously. I climbed up onto the table after the next one and the nurse called out, “Let’s get her doctor in immediately, she’s 9.5cm.” My mom and my sister were clapping and cheering. It took an hour and a half to push her out and it didn’t hurt at all. The delivery nurses couldn’t believe how calm I was and one even commented that I looked like a mom with an epidural. My mom and my sister both took photos and video.

I A MOM! lizzie with baby girl-2

What concerns you most about being a mom over 40 and how do you address these concerns?

My only concern is that I take really good care of myself so that I’m healthy and vital so that I can be a positive part of my daughter’s life for a long time.

What do you enjoy most about being an older mom?

I got all my crazies out when I was younger, I’m calm and content to be with her. I don’t suffer fear of missing out like young moms in my group do. I’ve been around the world, I’ve had great adventures, and everything that’s left on my bucket list is stuff I want to experience with my daughter.

How has becoming a mom changed you?

Being a mom made me slow down and appreciate different things about life. I live more simply now, and am conscious of modeling behavior and values that I want Ebi to have. I practice gratitude every day.

What advice do you have for women considering motherhood after 35?

Find your support network. Join a mom’s club in your area so that you have a group of women and babies going through or having just gone through what you are experiencing.

Any additional comments?

I’m grateful to my parents for their support. They are olympic caliber grandparents, and I truly value the relationship they have with my daughter.

InSeason Mom Cynthia would like to thanks InSeason Mom Lizzie for encouraging other women by sharing her story. Visit her blog http://www.boogersareyucky.com/

 

Trying to Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips

By May 30, 2014 Featured Home
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So excited to be launching my quick read e-book, Trying To Conceive in Your 40s Coping Tips, without all the depressing medical jargon or statistics and with over 30 practical coping tips! The release date is August 2014 but you can email me info@inseasonmom.org for further details and if you want to be notified when the book is released!

InSeason Mom on What to Expect

By May 30, 2014 Featured Home
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Cynthia Wilson James, a 40+ first-time mom, writer, and former childbirth educator, is founder of InSeason Mom and http://inseasonmomreflections.blogspot.com , which provides support to first-time moms over 35 and 40. InSeason Mom has been recognized by CBS NY and MSNBC. Cynthia enjoys reading, watching suspense television shows, jumping rope, and eating chocolate-covered raisins.

Having married for the first time at age 40 and gave birth at age 42 and 44 to two healthy babies, who were conceived the old-fashioned way, I know it’s not always an easy feat to enjoy your pregnancy. You are more vulnerable to the doom and gloom information about 35+ pregnancy lurking everywhere from the magazine in your OB/GYN office to the special TV report to your Aunt Emma’s tales of what happened to her cousin’s mother’s friend who had a baby in her 40s. Take a moment, breathe, and relax. Or as we say in the South, “Girl, take a minute to get hold of yourself.”

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InSeason Mom featured in MSNBC report!

By May 30, 2014 Featured Home
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Cynthia Wilson James was always sure about two things: She wanted a husband who shared her spiritual beliefs, and she wanted to have more than one child with him.

And just because she didn’t reach that first goal until she was 40 didn’t mean the second one was out of reach.

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InSeason Mom recognized by CBS New York!

By May 30, 2014 Uncategorized
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This is a wonderful website created by Cynthia Wilson James, a former childbirth educator and over 40 first-time mom of two daughters. Pregnant at age 42, Cynthia found very little encouragement or positive information in the healthcare community about later-in-life motherhood. This led her to create “InSeason Mom” a site packed with useful articles, links and recommended books for older moms and those considering motherhood past age 35. Cynthia even does “Let’s Talk” sessions, affordable private and confidential telephone consultations with those who just need to speak to someone who has been there, done that.

view the story on CBS New York.
http://newyork.cbslocal.com/top-lists/best-resources-for-first-time-moms-over-35/

Expectant First Time Mom Over 40-Avoid These Things

By May 29, 2014 First-Time Expectant Mom Over 40, Popular Posts
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As a woman who had her first child at age 42 and a second child at age 44, I have come to the realization to remain upbeat and positive, there are three things that an expectant first time mom over 40 should avoid. The three things to avoid are:

1-Online Discussion Forums that ask the how old is too old to have a baby. Even now that I have two healthy (thank God) children, ages 2 and 4, my spirits can be brought down by reading some of the postings .

Myths such as babies born to first time moms over 35 will be unhealthy or have a major birth defect are accepted as truth. This is so far from the truth I wrote You Can Have A Healthy Pregnancy Over 35.

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